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The Little Book of Less=More (How to change your life by doing less)

January Less=More: FUN, 85 Years Old, Visualisations, Affirmations, My Possibility, Change Now! Have a Break, Roles in Life, My Updates, Organic Growth, More, Self Promotion, More of the Less Bit, Organic Goals, Goals, Vision and Action, Newspapers, TV, Sleep, Less, Introduction.

Feb Less=More: Attributional Thinking, Success Motivates, Motivation and Luck, Mind Maps, Priorities, Word Strings, Conscious Competence, Morning Pages, Unblocking The Artist (Creative Expression), Mix with Positive People, Winning Formula – If you want something doing then do it yourself, Confidence, Perspective, Work Patterns, People, Awareness, Synchronicity, Breaking Promises!, Equal =, Play Big in Life and Shine Your Light, What’s the Worst that can Happen?, Perception, Good Days and Bad Days.

March Less=More: Perfectionism, More Georgia, He’s Stupid Enough to be Neutral, Move On, Anti-Role Models, Role Models, Sunshine and Vitamin D, Risk and Failure, Twix, Doing Less Again!, Fitting it all In, Family, Paradox of Leadership, Commit, Timetable, Neuro Linguistic Programming (Six Step Reframing Outline), FreeCell, Quality of Time, 2 Chairs, 3 Perspectives, Motivation Again!.

April  Less=More: Sharpen the Saw, Reframing, What Can You Give?, Action not Words, Play to your Strengths, Windsurf or Cycle, 5 Memorable Things per Year,  Legacy, Anger, Commitment Again, Just Do It!, Roller Coaster Day, Smile, Live Today, Animal, Dreams take time to come true, Eat LESS, Form Storm Norm Perform, Shoot for the Stars and Hit The Moon, !, Get Up Early and Go Out for Breakfast, Book Shop, Top Dog, Underdog, Parts of Yourself, I Can’t Even Motivate Myself!, Myers Briggs, Beware of Symptoms and not Cures.

 May Less=More: Having a Child, Group Psychology, Peer Mentoring, More Chaos Theory, Pain to Change, Repeated Patterns, Tension for Change, Don’t believe the Hype, Looking Forward, Be Careful of What You Ask For, Nothing, Coaching, Rhythm, Energy Level, Hitting the Low, and Dreams, Give it a Go, Change, Can You Face What You’ve Become?, Just one good thing each day, Yet More of the Less, Degrees of Separation,  Give and Take, Bad Hours, Be Honest with Yourself, Sleep, Chaos Theory, Dreams Coming True Again, Draw a line now and Start Again, What is it You Really Want in Life?, You are what you Eat, Roller Coaster, Commit and all else will follow.

June Less=More: Fate, Motivation Quote, Call Reluctance and Motivation, Kick Start, What Colour is Your Parachute?, Best Use of Time, Nothing to write about. Baby Grounding, Have a Dream, and Put in the hard work and it pays off later, Possibility Again, Open your mind, Easy Networking, Luck, Joy, Money, Beating Oneself Up, How to be an Artist, More Chaos Theory, Having a Child, Group Psychology, Peer Mentoring, More Chaos Theory, Pain to Change, Repeated Patterns, Tension for Change, Don’t believe the Hype.

July Less=More: Back to Less, Hang in There, Back to my Goals, Conditions for Lack of Creativity, Creative Watersheds.

August Less=More: Perfectionism, Think Big, Time Out for Nature, Scott Adams, Making the Time, Home by the Sea, Bouncing Back, Catch Phrase, Adversity, Coincidences and Public Speaking, Life Plan.

Sept Less=More: Have you plateaued?, Creativity, Life and getting on with things, Action Fork, What do Dream Mean?, Tired, What God Wants, What really matters, If you keep on doing what your doing, What’s Important?, Kick Starting Yourself, First Things First, Sharpen The Saw and Set Goals, Will you have any regrets?, Persist, What Matters?, Just Write, Setbacks, Gut Feel and Luck, SuperNetworkers, Complete One Thing Every Day, Pushing the Boundaries again, Think Big, Commitment Phobics.

Oct Less=More: Spooky Contacts, Problem Solution Problem, Going off at a Tangent,  Circle of Innovation, Life is too short to be jerked around, Public/Professional Speaking, Business Mix, What Kind of Animal are You?, Time Planning, Covey’s Weekly Planner,  Unlimited Resource, Personal Mission Statement, Moneymaking, Profile, Not Enough Time, Oprah says,  5 Things Everyday, Personal Mission Generator, What’s getting Tony,  Con’s History Teacher and Michel Thomas, Plan the Big Things First, The best way to predict your future is create it! Response-able, Homeward Bound, Walking in Sunshine,

 

Nov Less=More; Conditions for Creativity, Einstein, Dreamy, Curious Coincidence,  Curiosity,  Values, Right Now, Culture not People,  Ripple Effects, Insight of the Week, Eating Less, Give yourself permission to suck, Incrementalism and Pruning, Actors, Time Waster or Creator?, Deep Thought, Complete Blank, Immortality, Dance like no-one else is looking!, Time Out, Humour and what works, Opportunity, Not Getting Along, Blank Again, Sporting Fate, Associations, Blank, Small Steps.

 

Saturday 30th November 2002

Conditions for Creativity

This subject has been sitting there for quite a while.

I don’t know what I meant when I wrote the title.

I remember having a very creative day and reminding myself I should write something about that.

 

I guess everyone’s creativity occurs in different ways.

I can only speak for myself.

My creativity is often at its best when I’m under pressure to deliver and finish something.

I can spend many weeks of apparent inactivity but then I can blast something out very quickly.

It may mean that I’ve been thinking about it for weeks, enabling me to do something very quick and creative.

The other one I noticed yesterday, was that I was creating something new for 10 minutes, having a 5 minute break and then going back for another 10 minutes.

Rapid fire creativity.

The most creative times I remember are when I give myself a whole chunk of time.

Either go somewhere on my own to be creative or assign a half day or full day to brainstorm with a colleague or friend.

I’ve done that about 3 or 4 times in my life and I can very clearly remember the outcomes of those meetings.

They were real watersheds for me in my life.

 

Don’t be too hard on yourself to create.  Often it’s when you release the tension, the tightened fist that you start to create or problem solve.

I remember as a 9 year old being told by a teacher who was very creative, that if you do something late at night, like set off a task that needs some creativity applied, your mind will work on it overnight.

 

My best thoughts often come not whilst out walking or cycling, but in the shower.

I don’t know what it is about our shower, but in 10 minutes my brain can come up with 10 new ideas.

 

Visualisations are very good for coming up with answers and ideas.

Pacing around the house also works for me.

Inspiring programmes, books or magazines work as well.  They show you that you’re on the right track.

Sometimes you need something to narrow your horizons.  Creative cards, coloured cards, De Bono 6 Hats, Tarot Cards, anything that gives you a focused direction.

 

The one thing that doesn’t work for me is eating so my head buzzes!

I snack a lot when I’m creating but I wonder how much that helps.

A good Twix now and again has always seemed to help.

I’ve done more last minute essays, reports, proposals and writing, to a Twix (or two) than any other substance of abuse!

 

And sometimes you just have to grind it out, so that it looks like creativity but in fact it’s evolved dross.

90% perspiration, 10% inspiration.

 

Friday 29th November 2002

Einstein

Just finished reading E=MC² today.

WoW! Totally inspiring that someone can dream and think such things and predict without experimentation.

That’s often lost with people’s understand of science.

You have to hypothesise first before you experiment and prove your hypothesis.

But in order to hypothesise you often have to have intuition.

Einstein’s approach inspires me, because I use my intuition a lot.

I’m no expert but I can see things which just don’t add up.

Mad Cow Disease, X-Rays, Vaccinations, Diet, SIDS.

There’s some groundbreaking work being done in all of these areas by people who trust their intuition and don’t just go with flow.

It’s criminal that some scientists and governments still behave as the scientists 100 years ago did to the people who were changing the way we view the world.

You have to be brave to go against current thinking, and hang in there.

 

The book is written in way that shows that those who made groundbreaking discoveries were educated non-conventionally, and were outcasts from an early age.

This enabled them to not think like sheep.

Even reading E=MC², I still find it amazing what Einstein came up with.

 

Thursday 28th November 2002

Dreamy

“They could understand if relativity and the equation (E=mc²) had come from fresh experimental results; if Einstein had built some new-style apparatus in a laboratory to look more closely at what Marie Curie or others were finding, and so had discoveries which no one else did.

But what they could not grasp was that he didn’t have any labs.

The”latest findings” he worked with came from the scientists who’d died decades or even centuries before.

But that didn’t matter.

Einstein hadn’t come up with his ideas by patiently putting together a range of new results.

Instead, as we saw, he just spent a long time “dreamily” thinking about light and speed and what was logically possible in our universe and what wasn’t.

But it only seemed “dreamy” to outsiders who didn’t understand him.

What he ended up accomplishing was one of the major intellectual achievements of all time.”                     E=mc² David Bodanis

 

Just remember that.  Dreamy.

What were you Dreamy about today?

What crazy ideas do you have which you dismiss?

 

Wednesday 27th November 2002

Curious Coincidence

WoW!

I’m just reading E=MC², A biography of the World’s Most Famous Equation.

And I was thinking some more about my strong curiosity.

I looked up some quotations on curiosity and who should pop up but one of my heroes!

“The important thing is not to stop questioning.   Curiosity has its own reasons for existing.   One cannot help but be in awe when he contemplates the mysteries of eternity, of life, of the marvellous structure of reality.  It is enough if one tries merely to comprehend a little of this mystery every day.   Never lose a holy curiosity.”

Albert Einstein

And better still, given what I feel about the medical side of science, this rings very very true.     

It is, in fact, nothing short of a miracle that the modern methods of instruction have not yet entirely strangled the holy curiosity of inquiry.

Albert Einstein

Albert should have met my doctor today.

 

Tuesday 26th November 2002

Curiosity

I’ve realised something over the last few days.

Curiosity!

Curiosity is one of my core values.

I didn’t realise how strong it is.

It’s what drives me to waste so much time on the internet, to read so many articles, to surf so much.

It’s also what drives me to want to engage and question when people show me new things.

I can’t understand that when I’m training people and I wave a book or magazine in the air why people don’t come up in the breaktime to have a look.

Now I know.  They’re not as curious as me!

It’s two edged sword my curiosity.  It drives my knowledge and self education, but it also uses up huge amounts of time!

What’s your curiosity like? You probably don’t care!  That’s because you’re not curious and you’ve got better things to do with your time!

 

Sunday 24th November 2002

Values

Last week I had a look at what my values are.

It’s important to know what your values are or what you would like them to be, because they’re what drive you.

If you see money as important then usually that’s what drives you.

If you see family as important then usually that’s what drives you.

What if you have to choose between making money or spending time with your family?

It becomes a life balance.  That’s why values are so important.

Stephen Covey calls them Roles in life.

What Roles do you have and which are most important.

Have a think about it.

If you’re not satisfied with your current roles and values then change them.

What would you life them to be?

 

Mine are; Health, Family, Integrity, Quality of Life, Curiosity.

Advancement, Creativity, Success, Contribution, Open-Mindedness, Spirituality, Play, Loyalty, Security, Friendship, Wealth, Intimacy.

 

What are yours?

 

Saturday 23rd November 2002

Right Now

One of those things that someone sends you.

Even though it’s another one of those obvious things, I liked it, it’s true and the pictures are great.

right now

 

I have a competitor!

The Daily Motivator This is where I got the ‘right now” link from.

The difference is, he seems to be getting 1,000,000 hits a month and I’m not!

Good idea, well executed.  Boy he’s packs it all into his life.

Sometimes people think that about my background and experiences, and yet here I sit, desk and room in a mess hardly getting anything done!

 

Friday 22nd November 2002

Culture not People

What’s the most important part of an organisation?  The People?

No.  The culture.  I heard that one today and it really resonated.

If the culture is right, it will attract the people.

But if the people are right and culture is wrong then the organisation is doomed.

 

I’ve witnessed this twice recently, where in the downturn, managers think they can use it to fire and then hire the people they want.

They’re in for a nasty shock, because it’s not the people who are the problem but the culture.

They need to change the culture and the people who they currently have will be magnificent.

 

Thursday 21st November 2002

Ripple Effects

I heard a great story about a Nepalese woman whose husband produced seeds.

Counter to her culture she gave a seed exporter a small free sample.

The seed exporter from the sample ordered more and invited her to a trade exhibition where she created so much business by giving samples for free her area of Nepal has become a massive seed growing region.

And all because she gave something away, initially

Time for me to run some free sample courses, me thinks.

 

Wednesday 20th November 2002

Insight of the Week (from emode.com)

When the economy slows, when people lose their jobs, when people can't afford to live the way they'd like to, peoples' fuses get shorter than normal. And that leads to something you might see around you: an anger epidemic. But here's the good news. You can redirect most anger you feel in the positive ways listed below.

When you feel good inside, you'll be more patient and balanced - and a lot less likely to get your feathers ruffled by life's little inconveniences.

 

Tuesday 19th November 2002

Eating Less

Just ordered and received a book from Amazon,

Eating Less – Gillian Riley

Another book like the Allen Carr Easyweigh book about reframing how you see food rather than dieting or willpower.

I’m more interested in it for the techniques than the overeating.

I’ve cut out a lot of things recently.  Tea, biscuits, chocolate, too much carbohydrate, Ritz crackers, other assortments.

More water.

But I am left with one growing addiction.

Yoghurt!!  Lots of them, low fat and those small Yoplait ones.  Very strange.

Let’s see what the good book says.

 

Monday 18th November 2002

Give yourself permission to suck

Quote from the Wil Wheaton blog

"give yourself permission to suck, and fix it later."

 

Very true, just get on with it and sort the problems out later.

Get rid of the perfectionism and procrastination.

 

Sunday 17th November 2002

Incrementalism and Pruning

Two quotes from Tom Peters recent slides.

 

Incrementalism is Innovation’s worst enemy” Nicholas Negroponte

I like that one.  I prefer evolution to revolution, but sometimes when you’re on the wrong track it takes someone to come along from a completely different direction.

 

Rose gardeners face a choice every spring: how to prune our roses. The long-term fate of a rose garden depends on this decision. If you want to have the largest and most glorious roses of the neighborhood, you will prune hard. You will reduce each rose plant to a maximum of three stems. This represents a policy of low tolerance and tight control. You force the plant to make the maximum use of its available resources, by putting them into the rose’s ‘core business.’ However, if this is an unlucky year [late frost, deer, green-fly invasion], you may lose the main stems or the whole plant! Pruning hard is a dangerous policy in an unpredictable environment. Thus, if you are in a spot where you know nature may play tricks on you, you may opt for a policy of high tolerance. You will leave more stems on the plant. You will never have the biggest roses, but you have a much-enhanced chance of having roses every year. You will achieve a gradual renewal of the plant. In short, tolerant pruning achieves two ends: (1) It makes it easier to cope with unexpected environmental changes. (2) It leads to a continuous restructuring of the plant. The policy of tolerance admittedly wastes resources—the extra buds drain away nutrients from the main stem. But in an unpredictable environment, this policy of tolerance makes the rose healthier. Tolerance of internal weakness, ironically, allows the rose to be stronger in the long run.”—Arie De Geus, The Living Company

 

So there are two options, depending on the circumstance.  Prune hard to for big roses, and prune gently to guarantee roses.  Big risks or no risks.  Your choice.

 

Saturday 16th November 2002

Actors

I’ve always found it irritating that we hold famous actors in such high esteem.

All this fame thing in the media which has now gone completely overboard.

But on reflection I’ve changed my mind.

Actors are people who apply themselves.

Whether or not it comes easy to them, they have to sit down and learn their lines.  That takes strong willed application.

They stick at things through the knock backs.

They hang in there for years.

The have a dream; they know what they want and they pursue it through thick and thin.

 

Love ‘em or hate ‘em, they are people who stick at it and are very determined to succeed.

So in some ways they are role-models.

 

Friday 15th November 2002

Time Waster or Creator?

In my working life I’ve always wasted a lot of time.  Tetris, Minesweeper, FreeCell. Snowboard!

But is that time wasting or creative thinking time which enables me to work very fast when I need to?

 

Right now I have actions and tasks to do, and what am I doing right now?  I’m writing this.

But what I realise now is that I’ve changed the way I use my ‘dead’ time from computer games or phone calls to friends into output.

Now I write or fiddle with my Outlook address book, so that I have some output to show for my dead “thinking” time.

At least at the end of the day if I’ve achieved nothing, I have all this writing and content to show for my time.

 

This is something crucial to consider.  In the time that you ‘waste’, accept that you do waste time, and instead of beating yourself up for it, ask yourself what you could be doing instead of watching the TV, snacking, phoning, chat, smoking, coffee, gaming, newspaper, surfing, that would have some solid output but doesn’t feel like work or actions.  Most of the time wasting activities that we do to chill out, can all be converted into chilling out things which have some solid output at the end of the day.

 

Instead of computer games, sort your Outlook address book out.  Surfing?  Weblog instead.  Chatting?  Network instead.  Eating and TV?  I have no idea what the contrary to this one is because I still snack and watch a bit of nonsense TV.

 

Thursday 14th November 2002

Deep Thought

I realised that what I need is more Deep Thought to get my creative and motivational juices flowing.

And my best thoughts are in the shower.  My most mundane thoughts are also in the shower, like today I thought about Deep Thought, but I also thought about looking up the England Euro ’96 teams to see how bad Terry Venables is as a manager playing unbalanced teams!

 

I don’t give myself enough Deep Thought time.  Showers, Walks, Roller Blade, Sitting, Café with someone.

I tell myself I’m too busy for this and yet I don’t get things done by denying myself these pleasures in life.

 

I think I’ll have another shower.

 

Wednesday 13th November 2002

Complete Blank

Ever had one of those days when your mind goes completely blank.

I’m having one of those days this afternoon.

I just don’t know where to start with things.

It feels overwhelming.

I have no immediate urgent and important deadlines to meet.

And because those types of actions aren’t there today, I have free choice.

So do you do the small things or take a chunk of a big thing.

The choice is mine and I can’t decide, I’m frozen, wasting time.

 

Maybe I’m blown from this morning’s presentation which takes it out of me.

A tough one this morning because some of the attendees were very technical and knowledgeable.

That’s not the problem because I love people who know as much if not more than me, it’s just that it was a mixed audience.

And that’s the most difficult to train.  Catering for both extremes.  I had no warning of this coming this morning.

I would have done the presentation differently had I known.  And I couldn’t have known because some of the attendees were late joiners.

 

Anyway, back to the point.  I had a go just now at a weekly Covey timesheet.  Sod it!  I just don’t feel like it today.

Do a few calls.  Sod it!  I don’t feel like it.

The question is if it’s a windy day, and difficult to cycle in, what’s the windsurfing option?  Writing!

That’s what I’m doing right now and it sure feels  good.

I was going to do my writing later, but actually, that’s what I feel like right now; writing, my windsurfing for the day.

 

Tuesday 12th November 2002

Immortality

I don’t want to achieve immortality through my work . . . I want to achieve it through not dying.

    - Woody Allen

 

Monday 11th November 2002

Dance like no-one else is looking!

I was driving along today and written on the side of a hippy looking Combo Van,

“Dance like no-one else is looking.”

The penny didn’t drop at first.

And then I thought; how profound.

It’s true, I always dance like someone else is looking which is why I dance so badly and don’t enjoy dancing!

It’s true I should dance like no-one else is looking.

I dance pretty well in the bathroom mirror.

 

But it takes things a stage further.

Not only dance like no-one else is looking, but do everything for yourself and not to please others.

In fact it reminds me of the other half of the Barry Humphries quote that I didn’t type.

 

But if you live your life trying to please your children, you won’t please them.

You can’t be the person you think they might love.

I decided that pleasing myself was the best course of action.

It is the same approach with comedy.

I’ve tried to do things to amuse myself. If I sent a market researcher out there to what people wanted, I would fail.

 

I don’t mean be selfish but stop trying to impress others or be good for others, or care about what others think.

Be yourself.

Dance like no-one else is looking.

 

Sunday 10th November 2002

Time Out

Lord knows I don’t practise what I preach on this one.

But I have a friend stuck on the work treadmill.

Can’t get off the treadmill.

 

But he won’t even take 30 minutes of his life to have a think about what he really wants, where he’d like to be in 5 years time.

Please.  Just take 30 minutes of your life, to change your life for the better.

All you have to do is answer these or plenty of other questions from plenty of other motivation books, but these will do.

 

 

Come on, spend just 30 minutes or more on that.

Dream a bit, have some fun, write it all down, and you know what?

It starts to come true.

You don’t even have to do any actions, just let your mind work on it.

 

Saturday 9th November 2002

Humour and what works

I’ve tried to do things to amuse myself. If I sent a market researcher out there to what people wanted, I would fail.

Barry Humphries (Dame Edna Everage)

 

Friday 8th November 2002

Opportunity

The reason most people do not recognise opportunity is that it usually goes around wearing overalls, looking like hard work.  Thomas Edison

 

So I looked for more quotes on opportunity and found this one.

 

I don't know anything about luck.  I've never banked on it, and I'm afraid of people who do.  Luck to me is something else: hard work and realizing what is opportunity and what isn't.” Lucille Ball

 

And I looked for another Edison quote and found this one.

 

There is no expedient to which a man will not go to avoid the labour of thinking.” Thomas Edison

 

Thursday 7th November 2002

Not Getting Along

People are rarely fired for incompetence.

It’s not getting along that’s almost always the underlying cause for dismissal.” Stuart Margulies

 

I loved that when I read it yesterday.  The more I thought about it the more it seems true.

After all since when did being incompetent hold anyone back from climbing the corporate ladder?

 

Wednesday 6th November 2002

Blank Again

Yet another blank on this one today.

Had a very quiet day, not great inspiring thoughts.

Let’s write a few more lines here and see if anything comes to mind, and great wisdom.

Nope!

I was going to write about my favourite non fiction books, but I put that in my Weblog.

 

Tuesday 5th November 2002

Sporting Fate

Yet again sporting fate has struck.

The Gods of fate have struck again to produce a unique sporting event.

Damien Oliver’s brother was killed last week in a horse race.

Damien Oliver chose to ride in the Melbourne Cup this week and to the delight of the crowd won the Melbourne Cup.

It always amazes me how fate turns its hand in sport.

And this one is exceptional. 

The horse he was on was the second favourite, and I thought backed by a sympathy vote, but nevertheless it has happened again.

What is this magic that brings United to win the European Champions League, Sampras to win his 14th title, Ivanisevic to win Wimbledon?

And I’ve said it before so it’s on the record, Everton or Man City will win the Premiership before Newcastle or Chelsea.

And watch Everton go.

 

Monday 4th November 2002

Associations

Pig, Pink Floyd, Dark Side of the Moon, Patrick Moore, Morecambe and Wise, Sunshine, Rain, Manchester, United, Beckham, Keane, Robbie, Leeds, Chelsea, Bates, Clive, Andy, Williams, Marie, Wendy, Islington, Monopoly, Park Lane, Red House, Green House, Ozone, Antarctic, Bear, Mints, Fox, Hunting, Jacket, Trousers, We’re out tonight!

 

We are out tonight!

 

Sunday 3rd November 2002

Blank

I’m blank today on this one.

My back’s been hurting over the last 2 days, not spasms but an ache on both sides going down to my legs.

I seem to have done it from too much sitting on the same chair at my PC, writing this type of stuff!

Difficult to concentrate.

 

Friday 1st November 2002

Small Steps

Now in November, and just 2 months to go before I’ve been writing 4 bits of writing for a year.

That’s an average of 20 items per month, 12 months, 240 pieces of writing each on 4 subjects.

Nearly 1000 pieces of writing.

Amazing how it adds up.

Small Steps.

I learnt that from The Artist’s Way and writing morning pages.

I intend to edit each of The Little Book of Less = More, Rimmer Shit, and The Lazy Salesman, into subject areas instead of dates.

Who cares what I’ve written on a particular date.  But, I think putting the pieces into heading will help and starts to look like the notes for a book.

 

I highly recommend giving it a go.  There’s no pressure other than the discipline to sit down and write.