The Little Book of Less=More (How
to change your life by doing less)
January Subjects
for Less=More: FUN, 85 Years Old, Visualisations, Affirmations, My
Possibility, Change Now! Have a Break, Roles in Life, My Updates, Organic
Growth, More, Self Promotion, More of the Less Bit, Organic Goals, Goals,
Vision and Action, Newspapers, TV, Sleep, Less, Introduction.
Feb Subjects for
Less=More: Attributional Thinking, Success Motivates, Motivation and Luck,
Mind Maps, Priorities, Word Strings, Conscious Competence, Morning Pages,
Unblocking The Artist (Creative Expression), Mix with Positive People, Winning
Formula – If you want something doing then do it yourself, Confidence,
Perspective, Work Patterns, People, Awareness, Synchronicity, Breaking
Promises!, Equal =, Play Big in Life and Shine Your Light, What’s the Worst
that can Happen?, Perception, Good Days and Bad Days.
March Subjects
for Less=More: Perfectionism, More Georgia, He’s Stupid Enough to be
Neutral, Move On, Anti-Role Models, Role Models, Sunshine and Vitamin D, Risk
and Failure, Twix, Doing Less Again!, Fitting it all In, Family, Paradox of
Leadership, Commit, Timetable, Neuro
Linguistic Programming (Six Step Reframing Outline),
FreeCell, Quality of Time, 2 Chairs, 3 Perspectives, Motivation Again!.
April Subjects for
Less=More: Sharpen
the Saw, Reframing, What
Can You Give?, Action not Words, Play to your Strengths, Windsurf or Cycle, 5 Memorable Things per Year, Legacy, Anger, Commitment Again, Just Do It!, Roller
Coaster Day, Smile, Live Today,
Animal, Dreams take time to come
true, Eat LESS, Form
Storm Norm Perform, Shoot
for the Stars and Hit The Moon, !,
Get Up Early and Go Out for
Breakfast, Book Shop, Top Dog, Underdog, Parts
of Yourself, I Can’t Even
Motivate Myself!, Myers Briggs, Beware of Symptoms and not Cures.
“Suppose you were to come upon someone in the
woods working feverishly to saw down a tree.
“What are you doing?” you ask.
“Can’t you see?” comes the impatient
reply, “I’m sawing down this tree.”
“You look exhausted!” you exclaim. “How
long have you been at it?”
“Over five hours,” he returns, “and I’m beat!
This is hard work.”
“Well why don’t you take a break for a few
minutes and sharpen the saw?” you enquire, “I’m sure it would go a lot faster.”
“I don’t have time to sharpen the saw,”
the man said emphatically, “I’m too busy
sawing!”” Steven Covey -The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
Are you working
feverishly and not taking time out to sharpen the saw?
I may have
written about this before but it’s a good reminder.
Sometimes the
best thing we can do is let things be the way they are, not try to change them,
except our perspective.
Reframe.
The best example
I can give is from Allen Carr’s book Easyweigh to Lose Weight.
He asks us about
our concept on food.
Why is it we eat
beef (Cow) but not dog.
Why is it some
cultures eat dog.
It can’t be about
taste, and yet we attribute so much of our taste in food to taste.
If we think of
our beef as dog then that’s one way to give up on the beef.
Same with
Chocolate, Cakes, Crisps, whatever.
In other words,
you can reframe your perspective on almost anything.
Contribution.
It’s as much
about what you can give as what can you take.
When I contribute
I always find I get something back.
At times when I
open my heart, the world rewards me.
Have a think
about how you can contribute to the world rather than what you take, what you
need and what you get.
A suicide
recently within the family, made me think about how even if I have nothing left
of myself and no self-worth I could still contribute to those less fortunate
than myself. Give my life over to
helping others.
Of course when
you’re feeling depressed and suicidal the thought of helping others is not
something that readily enters your mind.
Nevertheless it
seems so sad for someone young to lose their life, deliberately, the pain they
leave behind and the contribution they could make to others.
To me, every
second is precious.
I met with a
company a few months ago. I was offering
to help distribute their product.
They were going
to come back to me with a price.
In the midst of
the conversation they wanted to give me a set of tests to help me with my
career choices.
Fine I thought
this is goodwill and the way to do business.
Misunderstanding. They wanted to charge me $375 for the
privilege. I said no, and I haven’t
heard from them since.
How many times do
I need to be cut and diced into yet another set of classifications.
They’re all
fascinating to know how you’re this way and that and how it relates to others.
Just one thing!
What are you
going to do about it. What am I going to
do about it.
I don’t know
about you, but I know enough about myself.
It’s what I do with that knowledge.
What action are
you going to take when you find out these amazing new facts about yourself.
It’s not about
Words, it’s your actions.
That’s why I’m
writing all this because I realise you can read as many books, see as many
therapists, talk to as many people as you like,
But you either
accept your situation and perhaps reframe how you see it or you change it.
In order to
change it you have to do something different.
Now given there
are 24 hours in the day and you already have your life nicely mapped out,
I ask you in
order to take some action, what are you going to do less of?
And I’m going to
keep asking you this.
Commitment is
easy. You can commit in a
microsecond. Now!
It’s your
on-going follow through action that will see it happen.
What are you
going to do less of, to do the things you know you want to, (should!?) be
doing?
Stop beating
yourself up for what you can’t do and what you’re not good at, and play to your
strengths.
I was just
writing about my struggle with handwriting and the limited criteria for
academic success at school.
But nowadays I
play to my strengths. I don’t write
proposals because I’m no good at proposals.
I’ve lived all my
life in a written world, and I don’t have to write now if I don’t want to.
What is it you’re
forcing yourself to do that you don’t enjoy doing?
Could you be
doing it a different way?
Could there be
other things you could be better doing?
What is it you
enjoying doing and would like to do?
Life’s too short
to do things we don’t enjoy doing.
Find different
things to do when you’re in different moods or situations.
When it’s calm I
cycle, when it’s windy I windsurf.
I don’t try to
cycle when it’s windy or windsurf when it’s calm.
Make life easier
by finding things to do which satisfy you in the mood you’re in.
Pick a year of
your life at random.
Can you think of
5 memorable things which happened in that year?
The wise Rabbis
say that if you can remember more than 5 events from a year, you’ve had a good
year.
Conversely, do
things which are memorable for years to come!
What is it you
want to leave behind when you’re gone?
Where do you see
yourself in 100 years time?
In other words,
what effect will your life have on the world in 100 years time?
For some, it
doesn’t matter.
For others, it’s
about generations of family.
Fame or Infamy
Something of
permanence like a building or book.
It’s often struck
me that Christopher Wren’s
One way to think
about legacy, is to ask yourself what you would do with 6 months left to live.
That normally
focuses you on what you would like to happen after you’re gone.
Anger is usually
best expressed and not kept inside where it damages you.
As long as your
anger is expressed appropriately.
More importantly
they say that behind anger is a need, a desire.
So ask yourself
what your anger is about.
What is your
need?
How can that need
be satisfied?
There’s nothing
like committing to something and then following through on it.
I’ve committed to
write this every day for a year and wherever possible I’m following through
with that commitment.
Committing is
easy.
You can do it now
this second.
It’s the action
that follows the commitment that the challenge.
Sticking with it.
How many people
fail in their commitments and let themselves down, let alone other people.
Why is it so
difficult to do what you say you’re going to do?
Human nature I
suppose.
Sometimes there
are days when you just don’t want to do it.
I’m tired and not
feeling well, but at least I’ve written this.
Just Do It!
Commitment.
Just talked to a
friend who’s having a bad day.
I’ve had a
baddish day.
Sometimes you
have to accept the roller coaster.
Bad Hours, Good
Hours.
Bad Days, Good
Days.
Bad Weeks, Good
Weeks.
Bad Months, Good
Months.
Bad Years, Good
Years.
God this is
depressing!! What I mean is that when
things are bad, they will roller coaster back.
Mind you it also
means when things are good they will roller coaster down!!
It’s the
struggles in life that gives us the contrast to appreciate the good times, and
good things.
Unfortunately
when they’re bad we tend to look back to when they were good, rather than look
forward to when they’ll be good again!!!
This piece reminds
me of when I first ran a day with a group on motivation.
The following day
one of the group came to me and said,
“Tony, we feel
worse today than we felt yesterday before you did the thing on motivation!”
Back to the
drawing board. That’s why I’m writing
all this on a daily basis, gathering my thoughts and knowledge.
Actually I wasn’t
put out by the comments because it was about motivation, not getting motivated.
Also people and
groups go through the Form Storm Norm
Perform phases so it wasn’t surprising that they were in Storm moving on to
Norm.
Often happens on
the first to second day of a course.
Smile!
J
Met someone
yesterday who has had an illness recently.
It reminds me to
live today and not to take my health for granted.
Appreciate
it. Especially instead of worrying about
the health things that might be wrong.
I’m off to Albert
Park (where they run the Melbourne Grand Prix)
with Georgia my daughter and Annie my wife.
If you were an
animal what would you be?
What animal would
you like to come back as?
Just wondering.
If you had a
business card or website (maybe you do), what would you like it to say about
you?
Just designing my
business cards and possible logo with a designer today, so it bring back a lot
of things.
What I believe in
and stand for.
The plans and
designs I had 6 years ago.
The animals I
think of.
3 Toed Sloth (“The Sloth sleeps soundly upside down for
18 hours each day”)! I like it.
Seagull and
Albatross (Scavenger and Long time flyer)
Tiger (Leave me
alone Grrrrrrrr)
In summary I’d
like to come back as a Seagull (Scavenge and Shit on people) with hands as well
as wings, so that I can pick things up.
Your turn.
Just had some
good news today and yesterday.
There’s nothing
like good news to help create some more good news
I know, I’ve said
this before, but I’m amazed at how what you put out you eventually get back,
and it could be months or years before it happens.
In fact, come to
think of it, I had my idea for my company name and logo, 6 years ago, and this
weekend I’m talking to a designer about creating something. 6 Year Later!!
I’ve also said
before that my dreams come true, it’s just a matter of when, and they’re
normally much longer in time than I expect.
But believe me,
they come true.
I’m getting
nothing done right now because I’m using food as a distracter.
Drugged up to the
eyeballs with food.
As soon as
there’s an inch of space in my stomach I get up to snack something.
And the stuff is
clouding my brain. Mainly chocolate and
tea.
So eat less. We all eat too much in the Western
World. There’s very few people who eat
to little.
Want to live
longer and be healthy?
Eat Less.
The best book
I’ve read on eating diet and health is Allen Carr’s Easyweigh to Lose Weight.
It’s not about
weight loss, it’s about reframing our thoughts about what we eat.
Just talking
today to someone about starting a new job.
Usually, when you
start and on the first few days you think,
“What the hell
have I done?”
And then after a
while things settle and you start liking and enjoying the job (usually!).
It reminded me of
group theory, which you can apply to yourself in that type of situation like a
new job.
FORMING, STORMING,
NORMING, PERFORMING.
All groups go
through these phases. It useful to know
this when running groups.
In my experience
it’s true about these phases in 90% of the groups I’ve run.
Firstly, they
FORM. They look around the room, check
out the environment, check out the people,
check out the trainer or leader/facilitator.
The Forming part
is usually best handled by introductions.
Getting everyone to introduce themselves or someone else.
This is why you
have so many daft exercises at the beginning of Training Groups.
STORM. Why the hell am I here? I know more than this lot put together. They’re boring the hell out of me. The trainer is shit and knows nothing. I want a break.
Etc etc. This is the storming angry part where once
people have settled in they often get angry about their initial expectations
not being fulfilled.
The best thing is
to recognise that this phase happens all the time, and it passes.
NORM is where the
group settles in and starts to work together and make best of what is there.
PERFORM. Alas this tends to happen when time is
running out and there’s been too much Forming Storming Norming.
And guess what?
These 4 stage always seem to fit the time allocated.
So if you are in
a one day seminar, you go through the 4 phases in the day.
If it’s a 3 day
course then you fit the 4 stages in to the 3 days.
And if it’s 6
month project, then again the time fits the 4 stages.
So instead of
spending 2 hours Forming, the project team spend 1 month Forming.
It’s interesting
to bear in mind that when you do something like start a new job, or become a
member of a group, that you may also go through these phases, regardless of the
situation.
So, just be aware
of them.
FORMING – What’s
this new job all about and who are all these people?
STORMING – What
the hell am I doing here?
NORMING – I’ll
make the best of what’s here and stick it out.
PERFORMING – Hey,
I’m really enjoying this.
I just finished
updating my website and putting more pictures of
I don’t know what
got me to finally update things on my website, but I was thinking about finding
tasks more onerous than the ones you find onerous in order to do the onerous
ones!
If you see what I
mean.
It’s an important
part of motivation, to Shoot for the Stars and Hit the Moon.
It’s a Stretch
Objective, something beyond reality that pulls you to what you normally want to
achieve.
It’s like going
on a 1 mile run with no fitness.
Want to do a 1
mile run easily from scratch? Easy, go
on a 2 mile run and the first 1 miles
will be a breeze.
I imagine it’s
the same with long distance running. 10
miles difficult? Go on a marathon. 10 miles will never appear as difficult
again.
It’s really about
perception.
If we believe
something is difficult, then it is.
If we alter that
perception by setting something way out in the distance, a light at the end of
the tunnel, then it becomes easier.
The trick is to
set something that stretches but isn’t too unachievable.
Mind you it goes
back to the 4 minute mile. Once one
person broke the 4 minute mile, suddenly everyone knew it was achievable.
The same with say
Man Utd not winning the Championship for 26 years. As soon as they won it again, they can’t stop
winning it.
If you play
tennis as a junior with someone and they go on to achieve things at tennis, you
say to yourself,
“I was at least
as good as them, I have the skill, I just need their application.”
And most of the
top 500 male tennis players have the same level of skill.
When they knock
up you’d be hard put to tell the difference.
But there’s
something else there as well.
That magic
ingredient.
And of course the
top 5 tennis players have something extra extra special.
You can still be
in the top 10 and win grand slams without being a top 5 player though.
Lots of us could,
should, would, but how many do?
The answer is 5%
by the way.
“Jack Levin wants the exclamation point
brought to prevalence, as he complains in a 1990 article that "We seem to
have lost our capacity to be aroused, alarmed, revolted, outraged, or shocked
by anything important."” Tom Peters
I
find when I’m writing I love using exclamation marks to add a bit of emphasis
and humour to a point. I wish there were
other punctuation marks so powerful!!
Tom
Peters has branded himself Tom Peters! Here he
explains why.
“The exclamation mark has a
rather interesting reputation -- daring, emphatic, loud, effervescent -- but at
the same time it's protective. It symbolizes harsh language instead of forcing
us to read or write it. It occasionally serves as a warning sign. It can remind
us of our childhoods (comic books and exuberant notes to friends in which whole
piles of exclamation points are included!!!) It's edgy but at the same time
familiar, safe to use when we're reluctant to vent our emotions in stronger,
less oblique, symbols. It's that paradox -- edgy but safe, safer than other
symbols might be -- that draws our attention to it. That paradox also makes it
a perfect symbol for the Internet.”
I
just love quoting Tom Peters!
I
think that explains my love of ! in my on-line word-processed, Internet/web
writing.
If you want to
gain a great sense of achievement and time on your hands, then once in a blue
moon, get up early (especially at the weekend) and go out for breakfast.
I just did and
it’s still so early and I already feel like I’ve achieved so much today
already.
Also, I love
watching the world start to wake up in the morning from very quiet. The shops setting up shop.
Sleepy people
staggering down the street.
The smell of
early morning outside.
Come on get up,
out of bed, rise and shine!
Sometimes when
you’re really really stuck in life. When
you’re feeling low. When you don’t know
what to do or where life is taking you.
Go and walk round
a big book shop and see what catches your eye.
Take your time.
Go round the
bookshop and see what mood you’re in, what type of book (or magazine) you want
to buy (and maybe even read).
Today I forced
myself into the book shop, I had no intention of buying anything, and came away
with 2 books on webdesign, Business 2.0 magazine, and a magazine with an
interview with Oprah Winfrey looking at what she want to do now that her
business is nearly worth $1Billion.
And what I came
away with is the idea that someone like Oprah needs to lead 100+ million people
into something new, away from all this corporate bullshit and politics of no
choice and murder. I just want to read
about where she’s at with it all.
The other thing
is I know I want to read a really good novel, either of the Nick Hornby genre
or something Andrea Ashworth like.
Your turn, get
down to that bookshop. You don’t even
have to buy anything.
Another and more
simple way of looking at parts of yourself, is to split it into 2 key parts
Top Dog and Under
Dog
Top Dog is the
criticising, parental, voice that tells you, you can’t or shouldn’t do things.
Under Dog is the
rebellious, victimy, won’t child part.
Between them they
can undo all your good intents, motivation and desires.
They can sabotage
your dreams and goals.
It’s quite well
explained in this description .
It’s good to
separate out the things you are telling yourself that stop you doing things.
They’re likely to
be either a Top Dog message of should, shouldn’t, can’t,
Or an Underdog
message of won’t, don’t want to.
Separate them
out. Look at them. And bring them back
together to see if them can work better together and help each other with their
strengths.
Simple isn’t it?
Now go for 7+
years of Gestalt Therapy and that should sort you out!!
One of the key
areas of psychotherapy are the “Parts” of ourselves we have.
Effectively our
different moods.
Once you’ve
identified your “Parts” you can start to play with them and use them for
gaining perspectives.
One of the best
bits of work I’ve ever done as part of my psychotherapy training was to have a
“Parts Party”
I know, it sound
a bit touchy feely, but it was a real eye-opener.
I nominated 5
parts and people to play those parts.
My wife (at the
time!!) nominated her 5 parts and people to play them.
We were then
given a situation and we nominated one of the players or parts to play against
the others’ part.
Very funny to
witness as an outsider how one of you parts interacts with someone else’s part.
I’m trying to
remember some of my parts.
The interesting
bit is then one of your parts, say Tigger, up against somebody else’s Bossy
Mother!
Now what if you
changed and put Rescuing Mother up against Bossy Mother!!
It’s like WWF
wrestling isn’t it?
I know that my
fall back position tends to be Northern Chemist. It’s my “coping” part and strategy. Sit back, evaluate, objective, low
risk-taker, and dour!
Now this Northern
Chemist is great in many situations for me, but it can be limiting.
When I want to be
creative Northern Chemist mode is perhaps not the weapon of choice.
Also, being
Northern Chemist when my wife enthusiastically tells me something, often doesn’t
go down well.
Classic case
yesterday. She’s been looking for
someone to baby-sit
Finally she found
someone, through an agency. She was
relieved and told me.
Northern Chemist
them pointed out all the pitfalls in going through an agency! Nice one Tony, but very bad timing. Very Negative.
Better
today. Someone told me just now that she
met someone and is moving state with her kid to set up with this guy.
Now my initial
Northern Chemist reaction is to pour water in this idea given that she’s met
him only once.
But give it a
chance Tony. Who am I to judge. Lord knows the number of opportunities in
life I’ve let go by taking a low-risk strategy.
Also I have a big
thing about committing and then see what happens. That’s what this person is doing. Commit first and watch the opportunity open
out.
What are your
parts? Logical Part, Playful Part,
Parental Part, Sexual Part!, Active Part, Creative Part? Identify it, give it a name, wallow in the
part.
What are the
parts of other people you notice.
Partner, Colleagues, Friends, Family?
Do they have
other parts than the one that drives you mad?
What other parts
of yourself could you use to give you a different perspective?
Parts gives you a
fantastic way of getting a third person perspective on what is happening to
you, and choices to take an alternative way.
Or just observe
and laugh.
And if you’re
feeling really creative, Have a Parts Party!!
I don’t have to
motivate myself, and it doesn’t stop me from motivating others.
I’ve said this
story before but I’ll say it again. You
don’t have to be successful in order to help others be successful.
When I was a kid,
aged 7, my Mum took me to swimming lessons, with Ken.
She told me that
Ken was an Olympic Swimming coach.
“Oh, so he swam
in the Olympics?”
“No, he coaches
Olympic swimmers.”
“Oh, so he swam
in the Olympics?”
NO
Ken didn’t have
to be an Olympic swimmer to help others become Olympic swimmers.
It’s a 7 years
old thinking to believe that you have to have swum in the Olympics to coach for
the Olympics.
I sure wish that
sports teams realised this and appointed good coaches and not good
players. There’s a big difference.
Good Players
motivate themselves, which isn’t always transferable.
Good Coaches
motivate others.
And also, and
often, the most difficult person to help is ourselves. It sure it easy to see other people’s faults
and help them.
But our own? That’s a different matter.
So the best way
out of this is often to seek help from others.
Or stick it out.
Or accept the way
things are.
And maybe this is
part of the problem. We look up to other
role models, we read their books and still we stay stuck.
It’s easy for
them to say how they did it. But what
about me?
And most success
that we see is a compact of time.
A compact of many
many failures before success appeared.
We just see the
success and not the Persistence.
Are you Extravert
or Introvert?
Do you get your
energy from other people or from within.
Bad day at
work? Do you talk on the phone to
someone about it (Extravert) or quietly watch TV (Introvert)
Are you Sensing
or iNtuitive?
Do you use your 5
senses only to pick up information. Do
look at the detail? – Sensing
Or do you see the
picture, not get bogged down with detail? – iNtuitive
Are you Thinking
or Feeling?
Are you a cold
logical head Thinker or an empathetic people based heart Feeler?
Are you a well
planned completing Judging person or a lastminute.com open ended Perceiver?
You have 4
either/or to chose from
Extravert or
Introvert (E or I)
Sensing or
iNtuitive (S or N)
Thinking or
Feeling (T or F)
Judging or
Perceiving (J or P)
This give you 16
types, ISTJ, ISFJ ESTP ESFP INTJ INFJ ENTP ENFP ISTP INTP ESTJ ENTJ ISFP INFP
ESFJ ENFJ
Confused? Search for “Myers Briggs” on the Internet and
see what you find. Also, if you have any
idea which of the 16 types you are, you can search on that 4 letter type. There’s lots on the Internet about your type.
I’m INTP.
I’m an Introvert
living largely in an Extravert world.
That’s ok for me because I find it relatively easy to adapt to being an
Extravert.
But the older I
get the more I realise I’m more naturally Introverted. I get my energy from inside, not usually from
other people.
I’m increasingly
enjoying working from home, surfing the Internet, and writing.
And yet for the
last 20 years, I’ve worked in open plan offices, I train people, I sell. I’m out there, but it’s not my natural state.
I’m
Intuitive. I don’t like detail. I don’t check spellings and grammar very
well, I see pictures and vision. I like
future possibilities.
I’m
Thinking. Logical. Non of this Feeling nonsense. I’m in my head. I can always tell what I’m thinking but
struggle to say what I’m feeling.
I’m
Perceiving. I leave things until the
last minute, wait for divine inspiration.
I like things loose and open to change.
There’s no right
and wrong with the 16 types. And also
it’s not what you test as, it’s what you believe you are and feel comfortable
with.
You can also use
it to guess at what’s happening in interactions with other people, though
strictly speaking you shouldn’t assign what people are, it’s what they believe they
are. However, I know that I’m very
Intuitive and Perceiving, so when I train a group of people, I have to take
into account the Sensing Judging people, who want detail and structure. It’s sometimes a real struggle for me to
deliver that.
Also just for fun
today I was thinking about countries and what their Myers Briggs type would
be. Here’s some of my estimates.
USA ESTJ (Howdy,
they love their rules, very logical and like completing tasks)
Australia ISTJ
(Just like the Yanks but in reality not as Extravert)
Germany ISTJ (No
sense of humour, rule bound, logical, and make the trains run on time) (and the
Swiss)
Japan ISTJ
(Ditto)
Holland ENTP
(Hate the Germans so what’s the difference?
More Extravert, see the bigger picture, and will wait for things to
happen)
France ENFP(Just
like the Dutch but more emotional)
Scandinavians
INTJ (More Introvert but differ from the Germans in being Intuitive)
England ISTJ
(Actually the most difficult to work out.
Generally Introvert when compared with the Yanks, like rules but not too
much, stiff upper lip, and try to be task and
completers but only in a crisis)
Any more? Disagree?
Being April 1st,
I was just thinking about what’s the worst piece of advice I’ve ever seen or
read.
And I realise
it’s more a general comment to beware of those that describe and prescribe for
symptoms and not cures or causes.
Many books I’ve
read are excellent at describing the symptoms.
Many doctors are trained to identify symptoms, but when it comes to
causes or cure they are totally useless.
Don’t be seduced
by all these wonderful books, training courses, and the medical profession that
identify symptoms eloquently. It doesn’t mean they have the right cure.
So many books in
the first few chapters describe so beautifully the problem, be it business,
motivation, health, relationships.
We’re left
nodding our heads like one of those back seat toy dogs. But when it comes to the cure it’s either
unpalatable, unachievable, or just plain stupid. A fad.
What books,
diets, advice, software, gurus have stood the test of time?
Events and
situations change. We generally
don’t. We are what we are. And we only usually change when an event
dictates we have to. Like having a
child!
We get up in the
morning, we have go to the bathroom, we have breakfast, we go to work, we come
home, and we go to sleep.
It doesn’t leave
much room for change does it?
We all generally
consume the same products, watch the same TV programmes, read the same trash,
and live pretty similar lives.
From Bill Gates
to me, Joe Public. Of course there’s a
few variations within the theme.
So don’t believe
the hype. Don’t believe the diet books
that pad out their pages with recipes (only Allen Carr’s Easyweigh to Lose Weight bucks that tradition).
I don’t know what
the answer is. I’m working on it. Training that has a lasting impact and not a
temporary candyfloss appeal. Books that
when you read you remember and act upon and it stays with you. Sure, describe the symptoms and problems, but
it’s the lasting cure that’s the real Utopia.
All suggestions
welcome. Watch this space.